Where all parts are welcome

Integrative therapy for the whole person

Hi, I’m Stephen.

I’m guessing you’re here because you could use some support. Maybe you want to feel more emotionally grounded, have better relationships, or discover more peace and contentment. I offer a style of therapy that integrates mindfulness, somatic (body-based) modalities and Internal Family Systems (IFS). Our work together can help you get to know yourself more deeply, explore what’s making you feel stuck, and unburden what’s weighing you down.

I work with individuals 18+ who live in California or Massachusetts over telehealth.

Please reach out for a free 15-min consultation: connect@stephentoriello.com 

My Approach to Therapy

First and foremost, I value warm-heartedness, open-mindedness, and simply being human together. Research shows that a safe, secure therapeutic relationship is the most important factor in determining positive therapy outcomes. I aim to be attuned to your needs, encourage feedback, and adapt my approach so that you get the most out of therapy. I am here to hold space for the parts of you that you are ashamed of, to welcome all of what you bring to therapy without judgment, and to gently and compassionately move with you into difficult emotional spaces. 

My approach to therapy can be characterized by three main influences: IFS, Somatic Modalities, and Mindfulness. I don’t view these as separate, distinct modalities - they are more like different flavors in the same “therapy ice cream bowl.”

  • IFS is about cultivating harmonious relationships among all parts of ourselves (our internal family, so to speak). IFS guides us toward loving all of who we are, trusting ourselves, releasing emotional burdens, healing traumas, and shifting patterns of behavior that are not serving us. This is done by accessing healing qualities that are already within us, such as compassion and curiosity, and through radical acceptance and the firm acknowledgement that there are no bad parts of you. IFS embraces the fact that we contain multitudes and celebrates what all of what our sub-personalities have to offer, especially once they have been unburdened and released into their naturally valuable states.

  • The word "somatic" refers to the body. "Somatic modalities" is a broad term that can include traditional practices such as yoga and qi gong, as well as more modern somatic therapy techniques such as Somatic Experiencing® and Hakomi. I am influenced by many of these modalities, and I am a certified Somatic IFS therapist. Somatic IFS encourages us to pay particular attention to the non-cognitive parts of ourselves. Most styles of “talk therapy” consist of an intellectual dialogue between the therapist and client, in which they analyze, dissect, and cognitively reframe problems in the client’s life. Somatic IFS does not dismiss the intellectual parts of ourselves, but also encourages us to drop our awareness into the body, to listen and give expression to the non-rational parts of ourselves that are less privileged in our modern world. This allows us to go deeper in therapy and discover and heal the root causes of many surface-level mental health issues.

  • Mindfulness practice helps us to release ourselves from the grip of thought and automatic behavior, to relax into natural awareness. Mindfulness does not need to be difficult and effortful – the basis of mindfulness is awareness, and you are already aware without even trying. The more we trust what is already here within us, the more we can access healing qualities that are fundamental to who we are on a deeper level - what IFS calls the Self. We can then turn our awareness toward all parts of ourselves and others with compassion, clarity, and confidence.

    Mindfulness has roots in Asian religions, particularly Buddhism, which is a spiritual practice that has had a great influence on me. For any meditation nerds out there, I am particularly inspired by the styles of practice that emphasize simple, effortless, uncontrived awareness, such as Dzogchen, Shikantaza, and more modern teachers like Loch Kelly and Adyashanti.

    Despite its origins, mindfulness is not tied to any particular religion, and the benefits are supported by scientific research. I enjoy working with people from different faiths, spiritual backgrounds, as well as more secular / scientific worldviews.

My specialties include:

  • Trauma

  • Depression

  • Anxiety

  • Relationship issues

  • Shame

  • Low self-esteem

  • Grief

  • Spirituality

  • Life transitions

  • Psychedelic harm reduction and integration

About me

I am a clinical social worker, but along the way, I have also been a meditation teacher, a carpenter, a gardener/farmer, a musician.

My therapy practice is enriched by my spiritual practice, having spent many hours in silent retreat, living at Buddhist centers in the US and Asia, and teaching meditation and yoga at universities and workplaces.

My frame of reference is limited by my social location as an able-bodied, white, cis-gendered, heterosexual, male, American citizen. I try to maintain awareness of this, to engage my clients with humility, respect, and the recognition that you are the true “expert” on your own experience.

I’ve lived my life in cities, on farms, and in wild areas. My journey has taken me from Brooklyn to Tibetan refugee communities in India and Nepal, farms in Vermont, the Northern Cheyenne reservation in Montana, Zen centers in California and the Pacific Northwest. And now I live with my wife in western Massachusetts, where we enjoy spending time in nature, going for walks with friends, and dancing around the kitchen.

    • California Licensed Clinical Social Worker 122384

    • Massachusetts Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker 128237

    • Master of Social Work, Smith School for Social Work, 2021

    • BA in Buddhist Studies, minor in Jazz Performance, The New School, 2012

    • Somatic IFS Professional Certification

    • IFS Institute Level 1

    • Somatic Experiencing® Module 1

    • The Interdependence Project Meditation Teacher Training

    • Yoga Works, 200-hour Yoga Teacher Training

Fees

Please reach out for a free 15-minute consultation call to see if we might be a good fit.

My fee is $150 / 50 minute therapy session, or $180 / 60 minutes.

I offer a limited number of reduced fee slots for clients who cannot afford the full fee.

I do not accept any insurance, but I can provide superbills for you to submit to your insurance company if you have out-of-network benefits.

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